Can we take a minute – actually way more than a minute – to talk about mom brain? Because my brain has been fried since having our baby boy, Asher, in January.

Is this thing on?

Mom brain is real; if you don’t believe me, then you haven’t truly paid attention or hung out with any moms lately. Our brains shift for the better for our babies—but they also make us look dumber than a rock at times. I might not be a natural blonde anymore, but I can tell you I have had more “blonde” looking moments than I care to admit since having Asher. I turn to my husband with a look of disbelief and confusion as I realize that I did something or said something, or lacked thereof, that makes me look like my brain isn’t working. It’s concerning and funny at the same time; I often have to laugh at myself.

Getting to the heart of ‘mom brain,’ though, is the fact that our brains are caring for so much more than what we are used to; since our focus is on nurturing and keeping another human being alive, other things in our brains get left behind and forgotten. I can’t tell you how many times I lose a conversation mid-sentence and never pick it back up. I also struggle to get anything done or remember anything unless it’s on a checklist. Even then, it might not get done. Don’t get me wrong… I was forgetful before having a baby, but now it’s laughable and slightly concerning. I feel like Dory… What was I saying?

What’s on your mind?

Well, let’s start with just a few minutes of today’s….. I need to pay my rent and renew my car registration. When did the baby last have a bath? I need to trim the baby’s nails today. How can I start getting our home ready to move? I need to vacuum my house. I should go through our closet and sort through what clothes we are keeping. When did the dogs last go outside? I fed the dogs this morning… right? My car is making a new noise after it was just fixed; I hope I don’t have to pay for any more repairs. I need to mow our yard.

Mom brains versus dad brains

This might be an article of its own eventually because it’s such a hot and heavy topic. A lot of our mom brain is dedicated to the million little things we must remember. Upon talking to other moms, here is some feedback I have heard.

“The kids’ socks have been in the same place for the last 6 years, yet my husband always asks me where they are, like they moved places suddenly.”

” Can you put the baby’s clothes away ?” ” I don’t know where to put them. “use your best judgment.”

” The baby needs his owlet sock on before bed.” ” I don’t know how to put it on.” “Let me show you.”

“How much medicine does the baby need?” ” I have the cheatsheet on my phone/ look at the back of the box.”

” My husband has helped with our baby’s nightly routine for the last six months. Our baby sleeps in a sleepsack. The other night, I walked into the room and our baby was only in a diaper in his crib, no sleepsack in sight.”

So we may act like our brains ran off, because they did – chasing everything on our mental load. It’s like having 30 different tabs open on your computer at the same time. So be patient with the moms in your life and mama, you can only function so well on caffeine and lack of sleep so be patient with yourself, even if it’s hard.

With forgetfulness, truth, and grace – The No Bull Mommy

Have a mom brain moment you want to share? Drop it in the comments. Let’s share in the chaos together.